I had the urge to title this “Women we love” but I wouldn’t want to trivialise it unintentionally. Cynthia Banham made an appearance in public yesterday, and made me cry with her grace and her humour and her eloquence.

I’ve started to think lately about what it means to know another person, or to like them, or care about them. It seems like so many people want to lose themselves in One Relationship, One group of friends; chasing The One to marry, and the one perfect job, and in the process of the chase devaluing all the people and things that don’t measure up – because who has that much time?

But of all the people Cynthia Banham chose to thank, so many were strangers, or acquaintances, and what they did made some kind of emotional impact on her. So what happens whan you cut yourself off from all those other human connections? When you don’t even want to chat to the barista making your first coffee of the day?

We’re conditioned to expect lifelong sisterhood or mateship from friends, and a soulmate to complete us. I can’t quite figure out how we collectively decided they were the only interactions with other human beings that matter. And I can’t decide how much insulating yourself and expecting – demanding – that every emotional connection you have be Meaningful is missing out on part of being human.

I’m gunna assume most people taking an interest in our blog know who Amy Sedaris is and hence already know why she’s so lovable, but ima go ahead and do this anyway.

Reasons we love her:

1. She created, wrote and starred in Strangers With Candy (along with Stephen Colbert and Paul Dinello who are amazing in their own right) which is pretty much the best comedy evah behind Arrested Development.

2. Her pets of choice are rabbits. Her current rabbit Dusty has his own custom-made hutch inside her apartment and gets to sleep on Amy’s bed.

3. She had an imaginary boyfriend named Ricky but he was murdered and now she lives with his ghost.

4. She doesn’t have a husband or kids and seems to prefer it that way.

5. She dated Paul Dinello, who is a hot bitch.

6. She started a craft club called the Crafty Beavers.

7. This article, particularly this part:

I was just watching these old anti-drug school movies from the 70s, things like The Ten Signs of Alcoholism. There’s this lady drinking in one, and her husband busts in the kitchen screaming, “What are you doing?!?” And I was like, “See, that’s why you don’t want to live with anybody.” So it taught me to not get married, as opposed to teaching me to not drink.

8. She’s in a Dolly Parton video

9. She’s delightfully insane and adorable. So is her apartment.

We’re not all about the mans you know. Like Errol, we love the ladies too. Not in That Way, if you’re wondering, but people do often seem to assume we’re lesbians, or tell us we have an odd bisexual vibe. Make of that what you will. Anyway, on to business:

Now that is one long, tall, fuck-off fabulous glass of perrier. She is Jane Birkin’s daughter though, so the fabulousness is probably genetically ingrained.

Lou’s likes include: plaid, top hats, high-waisted dark denim, tousled hair, being French and mysterious, being photographed by the sartorialist.

Dislikes include: groomed Americans, people who try too hard, and changing her lifestyle in any way after having a kid.